resilient

Hubby left again today. It was actually the first time since he's been on the boat that they've left on the first try.

The Bear had a really rough time with this good bye. He was sensing it a few days ago and just hasn't been himself. Any time Hubby would leave - for work, after lunch or even just going upstairs - The Bear would freak out. Screaming and yelling. He wasn't just mad; he was scared.

He's been getting himself physically sick about it. He had a fever. He made himself throw up this morning after we left the pier from crying so hard. (Of course, the boat was delayed. We were able to have lunch with Hubby one last time which was amazing. But, it started The Bear's cycle of crying all over again.)

He's always been able to tell when Hubby is about to leave and has had problems adjusting. I'm not sure why these emotional problems are increasing though. It really hurts my heart. I'm not sure what I can do to help him.

Tonight, I had put The Monkey in his crib while I gave The Bear a bath. The Monkey fell asleep in there so I left both boys in their room while I went to put away laundry. The Monkey woke up and started to cry. I went in to get him so he wouldn't bother The Bear. The Bear was awake, but just laying quietly in his bed. As I was walking out of their room, The Bear starts screaming.

He would rather have a screaming 6 week old in his room than sleep alone.

What am I supposed to do? They say kids are resilient. But, how resilient are they before there are some serious long term issues?